Real straight men
Gay men or straight men – Is there a difference?
Growing up as a young man in today’s age, one very fast learns about the supposed great divider of men.
As a straight man, you quickly learn that any form of sweetness, tenderness, delicateness, expression of beauty or care is labelled as ‘gay’, and that label is one that you never want related with your name. As gay men, we adv learn that by character of being gay, everything that we are is something that society doesn't want, so we either learn to embrace our sexuality and bear the consequences, or we decline it.
Both types of men however, gay or linear, equally resort to an array of behaviours to avoid feeling this, attempting to either ‘man up’, ‘toughen up’ or adopt some other form of facade that allows them to either ‘fit in’ or ‘fight against’ what society accepts. But what if this so called great divider of men is in fact an illusion? What if both men, gay or vertical, have more in ordinary than what we would like to believe?
When a man truly lets you in and simply is himself, when he drops all the protecti
These X-rated confessions of straight men might shock you
Something has become abundantly clear to me lately, as in it keeps slapping me in the face on a weekly basis. It’s that there are a LOT of men still hiding in the closet. Kinda, sorta.
And we women are dating website them.
While the younger generation are now very comfortable with their bisexuality, millions of men around the globe are secretly hooking up with their mates and then going home to their partners.
How do I know? These men explain me on a weekly basis!
Every Monday I cast out a question to my Instagram followers that simply states: “Tell me a saucy secret.” While shifting through the hundreds of cheating confessions – that I’ll be decent, are getting a minuscule boring (does nobody stand monogamous anymore?) – I find the same confession coming up time and time again.
They always begin with the same thing: “I’m not gay but” or “I’m straight but” … and then they proceed to go into details about the times they’ve hooked up with mates “just for a laugh” or “I was really drunk.”
Take these ones for example …
Why do some direct men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Together States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the recent book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom like hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva create that they appreciate a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they
Contrary to local folklore, I harbor no homosexual desires. However, almost all of my male friends (and about half of my male relatives) are gay. Due to the fact that I'm, shall we say, definitely into my feminine side, some male lover men simply assume that I, too, am a member of their royal family; others, who have a keen sense of gaydar, know immediately that I'm pathetically straight.
Subscribing to the doctrine that the only difference between a straight man and a gay guy is a six-pack of beer, the gay men who think I'm "a member" have come to accept what some refer to as my "illusion of solid heterosexual desires." At least, they stopped making passes. It must be tough on 'em. I'm so damn devilishly handsome.
I attribute my sexual ambiguity to the fact that no male role models existed when I was a infant. Raised in an exclusively female household, I grew up terrified of men. Now, I'm scared of women, but I digress. And yes, I'm in therapy. Permanently.
During my preschool years, Mom, who had wanted a miss she planned to name Stevie Sue, thought I looked sweet in lipstick and Grandm