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On this episode of Vibe Check, Sam, Saeed, and Zach continue their conversation on the college campus Anti-War protests, and they also talk about why Zendaya is such a successful star. Plus, a few recommendations to hold your vibe right.
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SAM: Born A Crime by Trevor Noah
SAEED: Untitled by E. E. Cummings
ZACH: Culprits on Hulu
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“You’re one of the ‘good gays.’”
I’ve heard this more times than I can count. Each time, my chest tightens, my stomach churns, and my inner animal comes online, resulting in two conflicting instincts: part of me wants to fight, while the other part just wants to disappear. The kicker? I’m supposed to grab it as a compliment. I’m expected to beam graciously, laugh it off, and maybe even express gratitude them.
But behind those words lies something much darker. It’s not just a careless comment—it’s one of the many weapons in the patriarchy’s arsenal; it’s violent and wrapped in a bow of microaggression. It’s a reminder that my acceptance and belonging hinges on my ability to make others comfortable.
If I dare to urge back—if I say, “That’s not okay”—the defenses enter fast and furious: You’re overreacting. I didn’t signify it like that. It’s just a joke. Microaggressive gaslighting at its finest. And the worst part? It’s not strangers or acquaintances saying this. It’s the people I believe most, the ones who think they’re down and believe they’re in on the joke.
Let me be clear: when someone
What Gay and Bi Men Really Want
Are physical and sexual attraction the most appealing qualities in a partner? Or are unseen qualities like good manners and reliability the most attractive?
Following on from his study into what vertical women want and what straight men want, D&M Research’s managing director Derek Jones has taken the next sensible step with his latest study into what gay and bi(sexual) men want.
In order to excavate deeper and pull out a real list of turn-ons and turn-offs for gay and bi men, Derek once again used of the Im-Ex Polygraph method. He originally devised this way of analysis to distinguish what people say they want from brands, products or services from what they really want by comparing stated versus derived measures of importance.
Qualities the gay and bi men said they desired in a partner (‘stated’) were compared to the qualities present in example celebrities they nominated as attractive (‘implied’). The identical comparison was made between stated and implied negative qualities, to determine what attributes are really the biggest turn-offs.
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